Updated: Jun 10
I wanted to pop in and give you all a sneak peek of my new book, Bad Men. I’m so excited 😁. I know it’s been a long time since I wrote my last book. Lots has happened, including an industry shift that focused largely on erotic fiction, fantasy and all the other stuff I didn’t write, so I had to take a step back and regroup. I’m not one to follow or write to trends. Some of my contemporaries do, and they make a good living doing it, but it comes at a cost. They aren’t happy writing it, but the money is so good they do it anyway. I spent years hating my job. I can’t go back to that. I’m thankful for the readership I have. I may not be on the bestseller lists, but I enjoy my work and the connection I have with my audience.
Additionally, I still battle some health issues. It affects my ability to show up in the world as I’d like. I don’t complain or talk about it much to people…I believe what you give energy to expands, but years ago, because I wasn’t living as my authentic self which included a career I hated, I totally wrecked my metabolism. To this day I ain’t right, Lol. But slowly and surely I can feel my healing making its way to me. (See podcast for details on the importance of living an authentic life https://anchor.fm/tonya-lampley/episodes/The-Journey-The-Fundamental-Key-to-Your-Happiness-e11bhcm).
So, here's a sneak peak of what I’m feverishly working on. I want to share my experiences with women so they can be intentional in their next relationship. The signs are there. We're just missing them! Share it with the women you know who are struggling in relationships.
I’ll start here since I wasted the most years of my life with him; years I couldn’t get back. And to this day, for the life of me I can’t remember how we met. Was it at the bus stop? A friend’s well-intentioned introduction? A restaurant? I’ve searched my mind more than once for the memory. It’s as if the scab that healed over the wound sealed it off for good. Even now, I’m careful not to pick too hard at it, lest the memory of the pain start rushing back. It was here that I tasted for the first time, the sting of unrequited love.
He was 5 years older. A big hunk of a man. Star athlete. Went to college on football scholarship. I’m weak for a smile and he had a sly, sexy grin, that when on display revealed a flawless row of teeth that had the perfect fit and color, like keys on a piano. The ends of his lips curled up slightly. It pushed me a little closer to madness every time I saw it. A rugged, outdoorsy type, he spent weekend afternoons all summer playing any kind of sport he could find; basketball, flag football or soccer, even in the mud and rain. As the dutiful girlfriend, I’d sit on the sidelines knowing he’d be incorrigible if he lost and he’d take it out on me. I gladly gave those two or three hours, until he returned to his charming self because he was so much fun to be around. Charm. Wit. A college educated athlete was probably as close as I’d get to a bad boy. I always had a sense of command over my own will and tried to carefully pick my partners. We’ll call him rebellious. Just enough to keep me on my toes. Too bad my will didn’t keep me from falling madly in love with him.
In the beginning things were great. Aren’t they always? Bad men are skillful at the art of seduction and playing a role. He was the perfect gentleman. Picked me up from work every night. The fun we had together was beyond compare. He had a zest for life and so did I. If you saw us, you’d say we were perfect for one another. And the few who did, said we were.
And that was the first indicator there was a problem.
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Tonya Lampley is an author and Certified Life Coach. She is passionate about living life to the fullest and uses skills learned from her work as a coach as well as lessons from her own journey to write articles providing tips for successful living and to tell stories of hope and personal triumph. Her debut novel was titled A Taste of Love and was a National Indie Excellence Awards finalist. Her short story titled Birthday Surprise received honorable mention in the Writer's Digest Short Story Contest. Her first non-fiction book Bad Men will soon be released. For more information about Tonya and her works please visit www.TonyaLampley.com.
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